Personal Rants, Trauma

Leadership

I listened to the radio today, NPR to be exact. I heard a press conference given by our President and others in the Administration and found myself feeling a lot, so as I’m apt to do, I decided to think on it and then hammer these thoughts out here, where likely nobody will ever read them, but at least I’ve gotten them out!

First of all, let’s talk about the word “leadership”. It’s a word we use often, but what does it REALLY mean? We label people as “leaders”….and people assume roles of “leadership” but what traits do we expect from a leader?

After consulting many sources, the definition of leadership that I’ll use for the purposes of this post is: the ability of an individual or group to influence, sway, and guide others toward a common goal, often by motivating, encouraging, inspiring, and setting a common vision for the group as a whole while maintaining ethical standards and being trustworthy.

Today I listened to President Trump discuss the aircraft tragedy near Washington DC. He was not a leader. A tragedy in which 67 people lost their lives…the deadliest US air disaster in over 25 years, and our new President was not a leader. He used this air time to insinuate that diversity and inclusion hiring policies at the FAA contributed to this tragedy. He promised to find out how it happened and “ensure nothing like this ever happens again”. He made assessments of aviation that he has absolutely no expertise to make (“for some reason, adjustments weren’t made”).

President Trump turned an American tragedy into a political issue. When discussing the FAA’s hiring policies, he spoke of “hiring people with severe intellectual and psychiatric disabilities”….as if listeners would willingly swallow this tale and believe the FAA is hiring Air Traffic Controllers who have disabilities that make them unfit for the job. Perhaps, Mr. President, the FAA is hiring people with disabilities for jobs that they can perform in spite of their disability.

For President Trump and Defense Secretary Hegseth to suggest that hires made based on DEI policies played any kind of role in this tragedy is irresponsible at best. Attributing this “theory” to his own “common sense” makes me want to puke.

I am of the opinion that it’s not so much “common sense” but complete confidence that whatever you’re spewing, the American People will buy. As long as the DC machine can keep us focused over here and fighting amongst ourselves, we will never notice what they’re actually doing “over there”. I don’t think that’s a partisan issue, either. For years that has been my feeling on government in general – regardless if there’s a Republican or Democrat administration.

It’s all one big sleight of hand – keep us fighting one another and focused over there and we have no time to pay attention to what they’re actually doing in DC.

All day today families were holding out hope for some positive news. Military families who have a husband, a father, a son who fly Blackhawks – they were all holding their breaths hoping to NOT hear a knock on their door. Three military families find themselves this evening with a CAO – Casualty Assistance Officer – who will help them navigate their way through this process of bringing their soldier home. Can you IMAGINE worrying that you might hear the President of the United States – the COMMANDER in Chief of our military – cast BLAME on your deceased soldier for causing the crash? He sure as hell cast blame on the Air Traffic Controllers today – so what is to prevent him from casting that shadow of blame on your solider tomorrow?

For more than 30 minutes, our current President took to the airwaves…not to LEAD. Not to encourage, not to inspire, not to motivate as a leader does. He took to the airwaves to blame, to make assumptions, and to insinuate facts that are blatantly false.

Shame on you, Mr. President. Shame on you.

Motivational Monday

Quotable Quotes

Every now and then I see a quote online and it just hits me. Does that ever happen to you? I see it, I read it, and I can just feel it in my core. Something resonates with me and either where I’m at now, somewhere I’ve been, or even somewhere I hope to be – and I have to screen shot that quote.

Today my post is about one of those “quotable quotes” as I like to call them! According to my phone picture library, I saved this one on January 14, 2025 – and now I share it with you.

Sigh – just read that again and sit with it for a minute.

How many times have we each told ourselves that it was “too late” for something? I know I have, many times. But this hits me – staying stuck is a choice. If I stay stuck in life, it’s my choice. Choosing a different path is doing better for myself.

At some point in the Fall of 2024 I decided to stop staying stuck and try to do better with my physical and mental health. I’ve been eating clean, planning our meals, and exercising. I feel better – so much better. I changed my focus. It’s not there EVERY day (especially at 0600) when I workout, but I try to remember that I GET to workout that morning. I don’t HAVE to – I GET to. That’s a big focus shift for me, especially that early in the morning!

Read the quote again – what aspects of YOUR routine, interests, career, focus, or circle aren’t SERVING YOU right now? It’s hard to think of things – and especially people – in that way (for me anyway), but sometimes that’s where we end up – with people or things that don’t serve ourselves. I don’t think January 1 is the ONLY time we can make meaningful change in our lives. If you have something (or someone) in your life that leaves you feeling more stuck than fulfilled, think about the changes you can make to turn that around…

Are you exhausted every day … maybe change your routine so that you can wind down earlier in the evening and get to sleep earlier.

Do you find yourself not enjoying hobbies you used to … perhaps it’s time to explore a new hobby or interest.

Is your job a slog – leaving you feeling unfulfilled and negative … make a list of things you DO enjoy and start spending a few hours a week researching what career opportunities line up with those things.

Do you find yourself focused on the negative … every night before you go to sleep, write down 5 things that were GOOD from that day. Read those 5 things again when you wake up and set the intention for your new day. Maybe you have a HORRIBLE day and wonder WHAT could you possibly write down that is GOOD for that day. Change your focus. You have things to be thankful for. Your health, warm clothes, the meal you ate, the bed you sleep in. Strip it down to basics if you have to, but trust me – those are things to be thankful for and they are SO GOOD. On our worst day we are still so much better off than many.

And finally, your circle – is there someone in your circle that brings you down instead of lift you up … take some time to consider why this is the case and what steps you can do to mitigate that reaction. If nothing else, less interaction with the person might be warranted. Maybe they don’t realize they do it. Just take some time to consider the situation, the severity of that interaction on YOUR peace, and make some changes.

Whatever it is – don’t stay stuck. Do better for yourself. YOU deserve it. I hope this post and today’s quotable quote resonates with you a bit and you are motivated on this beautiful Monday to go out there and do better. Make it a great week!

Health & Wellness

Wellness Wednesday

We’ve all made them…we’ve all broken them. Here we are on January 15, so this is a check in. Did YOU make any New Year’s resolutions for 2025, and if so, are you sticking with them?

One of my “casual promises” is to take better care of myself – physically and mentally. Here’s a little Wellness Wednesday check in on my progress for doing just that.

I have exercised every day so far in 2025. THAT is a pretty big accomplishment for me – especially because I sneezed hard the other day and tweaked my back. This is what happens when you get old! Normally an injury would side-line me, but because of the things I’ve learned from FASTer Way To Fat Loss – not THIS time silly injury! Day one I decided to (gingerly) hop on the treadmill and walk instead of doing the FW workout for that day. That slow, intentional walk helped me loosen up and feel a bit better. Today was “Total Body Strength” and I decided I’d try that workout, but be smart about it. May times I did body weight only instead of adding weights. I went slower than the trainers on the video did, but I got through the whole thing, feel better than I did before, and no additional injury to the back. I call that a win!

Mentally I’m taking more “self-care” time. Keep in mind that self-care is different for everyone. Personally I enjoy knitting, DIY home manicures, reading, and watching a series (currently watching Yellowstone). Spending time with family and friends is definitely self-care for me, as is cooking and meal prep. (Finding some of Avery’s gingersnap cookies hidden in the fridge was self-care this week – ha ha) Some (or all…I’m not judging) of these things might sound horrific to you – and that is 100% OK! Find out what activities “heal” your body and mind and invest a little more time in those for YOUR self-care.

So, on that note – take some time to define YOUR self-care and take the time to do them! If you lost track of your resolutions (or casual promises) maybe give yourself some grace and remember that TODAY is a great day to recommit and get back to those goals. Progress over perfection, as I’ve learned from FASTer Way! Thanks for reading, and remember…

Meal Planning, Motivational Monday

Monday, Monday….

As I said HERE, Monday’s blog posts are going to be based on the theme of Motivational Monday! Here’s something that I hope motivates you!

Meal planning is a HUGE help for me. Planning helps me eat good, nutritious food, it helps me not stress out about what to cook for dinner, and it helps save money. Now that we’re an empty nest household of two, meal planning has become a little challenging.

Cooking for 4 people meant SOME leftovers, but not many. Adjusting to cook for 2 people has been a struggle for me…especially when making soup. I CANNOT make a small pot of soup – can anyone relate? I found a great product that has helped with those huge pots of soup and so much more!

SOUPer Cubes

Here’s my method. I make two soups on Sunday. I like to call that “two soup Sunday”. Initially I was doing one, but found it’s pretty much just as easy to make two, so why not!

Beef Stew

We keep some out to eat that week and then the rest goes into my SOUPer Cubes. I mostly use the one and two cup cubes. I put a piece of tape on the cube to identify the contents with the month and year. Then into the freezer they go.

Initially when I bought the SOUPer Cubes and started using them, I would take the frozen servings and put them in a Ziplock bag for storage. Recently I have upped my food prep game – introducing, the Dash vacuum sealer! The gray sealer is showing a 10% off coupon, but hurry as it expires on 1/13/25!

Once I have several containers frozen, I set up the Dash and get to work!

First I cut the bag and double seal the bottom.

Two seals has to be better than one, right?

Next, load the bag –

Vacuum and seal – and you’re done! Put the label (from the SOUPer Cube lid) onto the sealed bag and move on to the next one.

I like to freeze the soups in both the 1 and 2 cup cubes so that I have a variety of sizes. Once you’ve vacuum sealed all the cube containers and put the label tape back on, you have a nice variety of options!

Ready for the freezer!

I recently got some containers for the freezer to keep similar items together.

Now when we need soup, we have a lot of options and they’re easy to find!

Easy as that! Here’s a list of the options inside the “Soups” bin right now – what should I add next?

For anyone who is interested, the recipes for the two soups shown can be found on Pinterest. Click the link in the list above for the post I followed the recipe from! I try to keep my Pinterest boards fairly organized so that I can find favorites again. I use my “Pinned and Done” board to keep track of items that were a hit.

I hope this post has motivated you to give meal planning a try. The SOUPer Cubes have proven to be really helpful and very functional. They clean up easily and are possibly one of my favorite kitchen gadgets. The vacuum sealer is one of those “I guess I’m at that age” things, but I do find it really satisfying to have those neat little packages of soup “at the ready”. I can put those on our meal plan for days that life is busy or substitute them out for a day when I don’t feel like cooking.

Let me know if you have any questions or comments about meal planning, soups, or freezing. Or, let me know if you have a favorite soup recipe that I need to add to Two Soup Sunday prep!

Introduction

Welcome to 2025

Well, here we are, diving right into 2025. Here in southern Illinois we’ve had a nice layer of ice, followed by a cold snap, and now it’s snowing like crazy. NOT our typical weather!

Snow – January 10, 2025

I’ve decided that I’m going to get back to blogging in 2025. There are a few “main” topics that I want to cover, so I’m planning the following:

I hope that you’ll join me on this journey! In the past I’ve really enjoyed getting some of my thoughts out in written form, and hopefully you’ll enjoy the posts. If you have any requests for topics or formats, let me know by emailing me at theneverendinglori@gmail.com.